Relevance: September is National Suicide Prevention Month....but as winter approaches and the days shorten, our awareness needs to continue..... most of the friends I have lost in this way have been lost in the "shorter" days of the year. I would have encouraged them to still be, but when you stop being it is sadly too late to talk about it. I hope this writing encourages anyone who may be considering not being somewhere, as in “anywhere”, to find hope and help and to hang on tightly to life. Life is precious and priceless, and most of us have lost people…..and so we know how it feels to survive another's "not being". So live as long as you can, as well as you can, and as hard as you can, don't give up. Keep getting up. Keep being.
BEING is Somewhere
It is a cycle.
You live and start over loving again.
This is the play and replay of BEING a human being.
Over and over.
Again and again.
Until, like in the “Velveteen Rabbit”, all your fur is nearly rubbed off.
Unless, for survival sake or other reasoning you cease to love.
Been there and done that, as a matter of fact.
And so what is the end game for putting up that wall of protection and cold un-attachment?
To stop the pain of living and loving?
To eliminate pain or being lovesick or loss-sick ever again?
Ceasing or detaching only adds to the misery.
It is both unproductive and unwise.
Numbing, but not curing.
To live and to love is to endure pain.
But in the end, living and loving are worth it all.
We humans were built to flex and endure.
We change, for we were not built to be static structures.
It is meant for us to descend to the belly of the Earth and to sail into the Heavens above.
But not yet. And not by our own hands.
There are things to do still, and that time comes upon us all anyways soon enough.
But there are things to do now. Today.
One of them is enduring suffering, and one of them is to love again.
So do them.
Not by placing all the pain of an entire season or year (or a lifetime) into a single hour. But by continuing………CONTINUING minute to minute, day by day, year by year. An elephant is a very big creature up close. The farther away it gets, it is still big, but the smaller it appears.
AND we CAN eat the elephant, if we prepare him carefully and chew him up one bite at a time. And so we can endure and arise from loss also….and love and gain again, even more maybe next time. We can walk onward farther from Our Elephant, letting him get smaller in the distance, and taking what we learned from him with us.
DO NOT LET LOSS END YOU.
You are endurable… so continue to continue.
For to love is gain.
And it is painful to grow as a human being.
But we can.
You can. I can.
I have lived my whole life trying to be a human being.
When all I needed to do was to continue.
When all I REALLY needed was to just be a human that was “being”.
And a large part of that “being” we humans were meant to be?
What is it?
This is the key.
It is the loving of others, caring for others, putting others before our selves.
By getting the focus off of our selves, we can more happily be…humans being.
So keep making the cycle.
And as the cycle rotates around again, remember this.
It is NOT…..The End
P.S.: It is a cycle.
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